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Lessons Learned in Life & Death Ryan on Jan 24, 2008 11:35pm

Jeep

As you may have already read, my step-father passed away last Wednesday. This was the man that raised me. Don't get me wrong, I love my biological father dearly and it hurt when he was laid to rest so long ago, but "Jeep" as everyone called me is the man who turned me into the man I am today.

I'll try to keep this short, but I feel I need to pass this on to all within earshot:

From his life, I've learned that you can't be worrying about the things you have no control over. When faced with adversity, just meet it head on and you'll come out the other side. The things that you have no control over are going to happen, so don't spend your time worrying about those things. Instead focus your time and effort on those things that you have control over, and you'll come out the other side, no questions, no regrets.

That's very much how Jeep lived his life, I never once saw the man distressed or worried. I can almost hear him now, "Keep on truckin' down the road and it'll be all right." That is so very true and I thank him for giving me that attitude. I may not always follow it like I should, but I'm getting better, and due to his influence, I think I'm already there compared to the average person.

The other things he's taught me, he managed to teach me in death, which is simply this: You don't get to choose your last moments with someone. Therefore treasure each moment, take it in, say what you need/want to say. Be graciously thankful for every moment you get to share with a friend or loved one. Be there...be *IN* that moment.

I'll miss our family gatherings around the guitar singing words to songs we don't know and playing the chords as someone shouts them out. I'll miss his gracious smile that he wore that was there simply because he already knew the two lessons I've just mentioned. Nothing got the man down...and though I'm completely saddened by his passing, I can hear him saying: "Don't worry about me, just you keep on movin' on down the road and it will all be okay."

There's so much more that I'm going to miss, and so much more that I hope he'll be able to see from high up on that mountain. Jeep, you're always in our thoughts and in our hearts. I only hope that I've made you proud and that I continue to do so.

Go Rest High on that Mountain

comments:
Timmay on 2008-01-28 08:51:45
Ryan, I'm sorry, dude. Sounds like your memmories of Jeep are strong. Just remember, he's still alive as long as you remember him in your heart. Take care, Bro. Please accept Amy's, Kendra"s and my sympathey.

Ryan on 2008-01-28 09:27:52
Thanks man...its been rough enough for me, but I can't imagine what my mother is going through...makes me want to move closer.

sis on 2008-01-30 20:43:10
lil bro I miss him soo much... you know what though, this will only make mom stronger. We are all finding out what and who our friends really are and Wayne and Connie are taking great care of her!! We all loved him so much but your friend is absolutely correct!!
love Sis

Timmay on 2008-02-08 08:02:07
Thanks, Robin. Ryan, just remember, I'm just a phone call away if you need to talk to anyone. Take, Bro.

Ryan on 2008-02-08 09:30:04
Thanks Tim. I know you're there and I really do need to keep in touch better. Not just with you but everyone...

Thomas from Fort Myers on 2008-02-09 10:07:31
Well Ryan,

This is Tom from Fort Myers, I'm sure you have heard about me here in Florida! I do want to say is that Jerry aka Jeep treated me and my partner with the up most respect, and I do cheerish the times that I was able to talk to him, When Ray told me Jerry was gone I had tears, he was a good man, and I will always remember him! He will be missed by everyone! I know your mom will be ok, she is a very strong woman, she has lots of family and friends that care! And I am one of them! You mom and Jerry treated me like I was family and that put a big smile on my face! Be strong and Stay Healthy! Tom

Ryan on 2008-02-10 19:43:36
Hey Tom, I've heard your name mentioned a few times. Thanks for the kind words and thanks for dropping by.

Sis on 2008-02-11 19:07:28
Ya see lil' bro we're all here for one another... I can almost feel a group hug going on here!!

Sis on 2008-02-11 19:08:29
oh i forgot... I would like a copy of that picture please

Ryan on 2008-02-12 12:21:33
If you want that picture....right click on it and do a Save As... :)

Big bro Rayzer on 2008-02-17 12:29:02
Awesome letter man, the more I work on putting together the memories of our life with Jerry the more I miss him too. Jerry has influenced many in his life who chose to accept his advice. Those who did, I know are having a beautiful and worry free ride through our short time on earth. Luv ya man!!


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